Adoption Services

A Choice and a Blessing.  Adoption is a choice, and history has proven it can be a blessing to everyone involved. Take some biblical examples.  Adoption was part of God's plan for a man named Moses.  An Egyptian princess adopted him as a baby.  His education among the royal family prepared him to be the author of the first five books of the Bible and a great leader who led a nation out of slavery.

Later, a childless woman named Hannah wanted a baby so much that she promised God she would give her son to be raised in the temple.  She kept her promise.  He became the great prophet Samuel, who anointed David, the greatest king of Israel. 

And, of course, God is no stranger to the idea of adoption.  He allowed His Son Jesus to be reared in the home of a godly couple, Joseph and Mary.

What is a good mother?  A good mother is ultimately one who does what is best for her child.   When a pregnancy is unplanned, a woman may foresee a home situation that's far from ideal for her child.  Financial limitations could make it difficult for her to earn living expenses while providing adequate care and attention for an infant.  Uncertainty about the father's commitment--or her own--could threaten any hope for a stable, two-parent family.  

Whether or not birth parents choose to parent their child, they remain responsible for the fact that another human being has come into the world. They have had a special role in giving that child life and now have the responsibility to plan well for that child. When you are involved in planning your child's adoption, you are a very important person in your child's life, even though you choose not to parent.

Finding Joy and Hope.  Allowing someone else to raise your child is a choice that you can live with--if you know it's the best choice for your child.  Adoptive parents are well situated to provide for your child's physical needs, and they understand well that parenting requires day-to-day sacrifices.  Their greatest asset is a committed partnership that allows your child to develop in a home that's stable, happy, and secure.

Adoption may be the best way to love your baby.  Every situation is different.  Christian Family Services (CFS) wants you to find the best solution for yourself and your child. 

Your Role in Adoption.  Because adoption is a process of planning for your child's future, we believe you have a right to decide how you want your adoption to proceed. It is with this in mind that CFS encourages birthparents to be active partners in the decision making process. We believe adoption works best when the needs of all parties in the "adoption triangle" are met. This will take into consideration the individual differences people have and their varying needs and preferences.

We believe it is your right to have all the information you need in making decisions that have lifelong effects on your life and your child's. You have the right to select the family you want to adopt your baby. You also have the right to choose how much contact you want with them.

Some possible options for contact with the adoptive parents and your child include meeting the adoptive couple, talking to them by telephone, writing them, receiving letters and pictures from them, etc. Many adoptive and birth couples form an ongoing relationship. The important thing is to find what level of contact you are comfortable with and make plans accordingly.

Birthparents have many other rights. You have the right to see your child and spend time with your child in the hospital. You have the right to select the name for your child, which will go on his or her original birth certificate. In reality, your rights and opportunities just depend upon your needs and your relationship with the adoptive parents.

Adopted children often have questions about their birthparents such as: What do they look like? What were the circumstances surrounding their adoption decision?  And so on.  Because of this, we believe it is one of your responsibilities to answer as many questions for your child as possible. We strongly encourage you to write a letter to your child explaining why you choose adoption for him or her. We also suggest that you put together a scrapbook about yourself with pictures of you at various ages and pictures of your family members. Extended family members are encouraged to send letters or gifts with the child. You also may send gifts to your child.

Different than you expected?  Most people are surprised when they learn about the possibilities in adoption.  It is an option that does much good for many people, and Christian Family Services wants everyone to become more familiar with how it works. 

We would be happy to provide more information or answer any questions you have.  Call us at 1-(800) 226-2367, or send us an email in complete confidence.